There’s an awful lot about 2017 I wish I could change. In fact, I would erase the whole flipping year. I wish I’d chosen an easier path and that I hadn’t allowed life to throw me around the way it did. In hindsight, I would have tried to find a better way to keep my family from going into financial crisis. I would have surrounded myself with people who would push me forward instead of commiserating. And I certainly would have charged people for my services instead of working my butt off for free. Do you know why? Because at the end of the day, it was all a choice. A stubborn, I-can-force-this-to-go-exactly-how-I-want-it-to-go choice. That my marriage grew stronger through it instead of collapsing in divorce is a miracle. Make no mistake, though. We all suffered greatly.
I want better for you – if you’ll choose it.
We can’t change the past. I did what I did and sacrificed what I sacrificed. In the end, it’s all growth. It's made a better coach for you. Eventually, I was so sick of myself being in a place I knew I didn’t belong that I had to choose to stand up and do things differently. Friends, I am not available to those who are unwilling or not ready to shift into “get it done.” I’m not available for BS or excuses you are unwilling to release. We all have them. When you’re sick of you and sick of where you are, you’ll do anything to change. You will know it’s time. For your sake, I hope you make you the decision faster than I did.
I am still a sympathetic ear – to a point. BUT. We work through and shift the struggle. We change focus. I will not allow wallowing in our stories and creating them over and over and over again instead of making the choice to do something different. Our stories are powerful and can propel us forward into lives we never imagined. This I have learned firsthand. We must release the past, though. Allow it to serve you instead of keeping you stuck or pulling you backward. I’m not interested in assisting the creation of your continued suffering. No. I’m here to help you embrace and change your future. I'm here to help you change your story.
Please understand that I am still one to openly share my journey with you. That includes struggle and joy. This is to inspire and let you know you are not alone. It is not permission to stay stuck in misery. That is not the intention of EMM.
Because here’s the secret.
I found joy. In a tumultuous crisis, I found joy. When it all hit the fan in a way I never imagined (Miss Fearful & Responsible right here) and I had ZERO control over anything in my life, I threw my hands up in surrender. Clearly, I was standing in the way. Clearly, victimhood and martyrdom would continue if I kept control. I chose to find happiness in every day, regardless of what was happening. Instead of saying “I’ll be happy when,” I found it in the present. Little bits of good started appearing. It was when I accepted that creating the beautiful future I know is ours required big shifts, ones I had resisted for years, that I actually had some control.
The Rebecca of today is not the Rebecca of even a month ago. Isn't that a beautiful, wonderful thing about choice, growth, and doing the work? When the time is right, I will share more of the intense transformation that occurred by God's grace. What's already in this post is what you need to hear now. If you’re ready to show up and cut the excuses, I’m here. You are strong, capable, and incredible. You can overcome anything you decide to overcome.
Make the decision.
We stand up. We claim our worth. We move mountains.