Happy Monday, lovelies! How are you? How was your weekend? It was cold and rainy here. Having grown up in the Midwest where winters are fairly gray, a few Colorado gray days here and there don't bother me. We did turn on the heat and fuss a bit about the house being drafty. Does that make us old?
As I look back on the first 30 years of my life, it's interesting to see how much of it was filled with low self-worth and self-esteem. It was not unusual for me to put myself down, doubt my abilities, and not put myself out there because I didn't think I was good enough.
"I’m not good enough. I could never do that. Why would anyone listen to me? Who am I to do anything outside the box? Maybe I shouldn't even try."
Do any of those feel or sound familiar?
Here's the thing with those thoughts: they are lies. At the core of who you are, you are good enough. I used to talk about finding your worth, but I was off in that approach. You don’t need to find your worth. You have it. It’s been there all along. You must find a way to accept it.
Simply by existing, you are worthy. You are worthy of living free of toxic relationships and unnecessary drama. You are worthy of making a difference in this world, having a career that fulfills you, and being the mom you dream of being. Whatever it is you want and dream of having in your life, you are worthy of creating it. I wholeheartedly believe that our positive dreams are placed on our hearts for a reason.
Here is the pretty spectacular thing: simply by existing, you are worthy. We all are. You don't have to do anything for it. It's right there, waiting for you to acknowledge and accept it.
That's great, Rebecca, but I've lived my entire life feeling less than. Where do I even start?
It's a process. The first step is allowing yourself to accept that you are worthy, whether or not you feel it. Next, sit down with a piece of paper and write down your dream. What does your dream life look like each day? What have you secretly wanted to do for the last 10 years and never allowed yourself to believe is possible? Big or small, write down everything that comes to mind. Don't limit yourself here. Let yourself dream!
That's great, too, Rebecca, but I still don't believe I'm worthy of those things. Real talk? Some days I still struggle with that. In those moments I pull out a piece of paper and write down the things I know are good about me, the people I have recently helped, and any positive difference I have made. Still struggling? Ask someone you know and trust to please share the wonderful things they see in you. Listen when you do and take it to heart.
The last thing I embrace are affirmations. When I'm experiencing setbacks or am slower than I'd like to reach goals, I look myself in the mirror and say, "I am multimillionaire Empowering Modern Mom Rebecca Mogg." Am I a multimillionaire? No. Not yet. But for purposes of serving the world and each of you at a greater level, that is a big goal of mine. Stating it like it's happened helps me believe it's possible and gives me a greater confidence. It makes it feel like it's already happened and puts me in a confident space.
What can you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? If you are struggling to come up with your own, hop over to Pinterest and find one to borrow for a while. Our minds believe what we feed them. Feed them hope and know we will keep talking about this.
P.S. For quick self-esteem boosts, I find this list of ideas helpful.